James Bond, suburbanite

Another part of my personal quest is to become a man in the way I present myself to others. This is particularly true with my wife.

Somewhere in the years after we started dating and probably before we were married, I relaxed around my wife much more than I should have. My language grew worse. My humor is too often crude. There are too many times when I am downright disgusting.

Now, I have no desire to remove these things from my life in their entirety. After all, I like crude jokes, sometimes like talking like a sailor, and am sometimes disgusting. But, I need to learn to control that and keep it in the appropriate environment, such as either alone or at a poker night with my buddies. Not with my wife. Not with my family. Not at work.

In fact, it's sad to think that I'm better behaved at work than I am in front of my wife.

So, part of my goal and my personal journey is to become more the gentleman, more James Bond. This is important if I want my boys to grow up to be this way, and I do.

There's no dramatic conclusion to this; it's just something that needs to happen.